This post is written by TBY teacher and co-director Emma Dines
I wanted to share something that I’m feeling (shyly) proud of. It comes after many different iterations and action plans (including some new year’s resolutions!).
Here it is: I am currently relating to and using my phone in what feels like a balanced and mindful way.
I wonder if this will come as a surprise to people, if they think that because I teach yoga that I am somehow a super mindful person who wouldn’t be susceptible to smartphone overuse. Well, I’m here to rid you of that notion. I am a human that loooves that primal hit of dopamine from scrolling silly videos, staying up past my bedtime and clicking “add to cart”. I am also a human that can get so consumed by the outrage expressed online at the injustices of the world that it disrupts my sleep and my mental health.
I’m not here to shame anybody about using their phone, or to say that we shouldn’t pay attention to very real injustice. I am here to say that I felt like my phone was taking up too much space in my life, and I’m feeling really differently now that it takes up less. I feel more able to use my phone as a tool, rather than feeling used by it.
For a few years there, I was on social media (Facebook and Instagram) and I could feel the pull of it constantly, both as an individual and as a yoga teacher. I felt like I had to have an online presence, that my thoughts and opinions as a teacher were only relevant if I shared them on those particular forums. I felt like I didn’t exist if I didn’t exist as my Instagram account. It was not only exhausting, it also distanced me greatly from the hope and goal of my yoga practice: grounded presence and awareness. I never felt less grounded, present or aware than when I got off my phone after posting, commenting or consuming. It was a vortex that pulled me in, until I finally jumped out of it, and logged off for good.
But social media wasn’t the only way that my phone was creating disconnect in my life. Even after I logged off of social media, my brain still wanted the little screen…scrolling photos, clicking through apps, trying to find some way, some reason to be on there.
It took a long while, but here are some of the things that helped me decrease my phone interaction over time.
- I use this minimalist phone app to make my phone way less colourful and appealing.
- I started using a pocket journal to replace scrolling.
- I set my phone to black and white mode after 5pm so it’s less fun to look at. I got some great tips on this Lifekit podcast episode on how to make your phone more boring.
- And I logged off of Instagram and Facebook, for good.
And how do I feel? I feel like my creativity has been liberated. What creativity used to get poured into social media now goes into my every day life and interactions. I feel that my friendships are richer. I reach out to people more, send voice notes or talk one-on-one, rather than relying on seeing their photos or shares on the algorithm. I am more informed. Instead of reading a million opinions that give me half or none of the context of a particular news story, I seek out news from trusted sources. My mind is clearer, and I can move more slowly. I feel like I can more carefully form my thoughts and opinions, without feeling so influenced by the constant noise or trends of the online world.
I’m sharing this in the context of The Branches community because we live in this very phone-forward world together, and the ways our phones shape our attention feels like a spiritual struggle, perhaps one of the biggest problems of our time. The way misinformation, outrage and hatred is spreading online is largely in part to how individual people are being manipulated by the very consciously created algorithms on their phones. I want to be part of disrupting that cycle, part of reminding us all to look up, to bring a different sense of awareness to this small companion that lives in our pocket and that contains both connection and disconnection to the world. I want us to bring the awareness we cultivate in our yoga practices, to the moment when we pick up our phones. What are we looking for in there? Comfort, solace, connection, escape? Is that the place to find it? I want us to remember that we are bodies, and consciousness and nervous systems, and that we have agency in relating to these tiny screens, and we can choose how they shape our lives.
Thanks for reading this far. I’m curious, what’s your relationship like with your phone, with social media, with news, with all the apps? What do you think about when you read about my experience? Looking forward to hearing anything you have to share.
With care,
Emma
P.S. If it’s hard for you to take a break from your phone, you might consider coming to a class at the studio. We have a phone-free policy in our practice rooms, so you have to leave it in your bag on silent. 😉
After reading our newsletter, a Branches community member reached out to share some additional tips that they have found helpful in their goal to reduce less mindful scrolling; we’re adding them here:
First, I used to find myself holding my phone, scrolling on an app that I didn’t even realize I had opened (Instagram, Reddit, etc.), and I hated this. If I was going to spend some time on these apps, I wanted it to be mindful. I love the concept of neuroplasticity and how the brain creates a “super highway” for commonly used routines. Since my brain was so familiar with where these buttons were on my phone, I could access them without even thinking. I ended up burying the icons for these apps in an unused/harder to reach part of my phone and it was an instant fix! I would pick up my phone and end up putting it back down after realizing what I was doing. If I find myself getting to them a little too easily, I just move them again and it works each time.
Second, there is a very simple and cute free app called Focus Friend made by Hank Green that rewards people for using their phone less, in a very gentle way. A lot of people have found this app to be so helpful in lots of ways. Not just for working/focusing, but for things like watching a movie with your family and having the itch to look at your phone. It helps put it back down again.







